Woman Called ‘Selfish’ After She Won’t Let Family Stay in Her College Apartment

A woman seeks advice from the Reddit community after refusing to let her family stay in her apartment while her roommates are away.

In a post shared on the popular AITA subreddit, the 20-year-old college student questions if she’s in the wrong for not offering up her space.

“I’m (20f) in college and I rent an apartment with two of my friends (20f) who are in a relationship,” she writes in her post, explaining the living arrangement. “So our apartment is two bedrooms and it works for us.”

Both her roommates recently informed her they were heading home to visit their families “for a few weeks” and told her they would be okay if she had people over.

When her mom found out the apartment would be mostly empty, she immediately asked to come stay with her husband and the poster’s two half-siblings. However, the poster is uncomfortable with her family staying in the small space.

“I told mom there wasn’t enough space for everyone and she said I’m used to sharing with my half siblings and could do it again,” she shares. That suggestion quickly triggered memories of her childhood living situation.

When she lived at home, she was forced to share a bedroom with her half-siblings, who are 11 and 13 years younger than her, respectively. “We only had a two bedroom house and mom said it wasn’t a priority to get me a new room,” she explains, adding, “I hated it.”

In fact, part of the reason she avoids visiting home is that she’d still be expected to share a room with the kids. “That drives my mom crazy so she said they can come to stay since I won’t,” she writes. “I told her it doesn’t take care of the sharing a room problem.”

Even with her roommates gone, she still doesn’t feel comfortable cramming her family into the space, especially since the setup hasn’t changed from what she grew up with. “She said it’s no big deal and I said it is and it always was, she just never cared.”

Her mother accused her of being “selfish,” insisting that the family is making an effort by choosing to visit her and “taking time out of their summer to come see me.”

Despite the pressure, she stands firm and suggests that her mom look into other options. “I told them they should find an Airbnb if they want to visit but mom said no,” she writes.

Her stepfather then chimed in, claiming the poster “benefitted from them so the least I could do is provide accommodation for free.”

Over the past four weeks, the topic continues to come up with no sign of resolution.

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Her mom tries to appeal to her emotionally, saying the younger siblings miss her and are confused about why she never comes home. “She told me she misses her first baby and can’t understand me pulling away like I have,” she adds.

But for the young woman, it all comes back to how she felt growing up. “There’s just no way I want to share with two kids and one of them is my half brother which always made it more awkward to me,” she writes.

As she continues to face guilt and pressure from her family, she turns to Reddit to ask if she’s truly being unreasonable.