Man Deliberately Hides That He’s Married At Work, Reports Co-Worker Who Finds Out

A man reported one of his co-workers after they kept pressing him about whether or not he was married.

On Reddit, the man explained that he started at his new job a few months ago, and, since then, one of his co-workers has repeatedly been asking him personal questions about his life. 

“I never answered them at all and simply continued on with work or talking about work if required. I recently got married and she somehow found out,” he explains. “I don’t wear a ring and gave no sign at work that I got married.”

“She confronted me about it. She said that she was upset because she wanted to congratulate me and that other coworkers would have gladly given me a small celebration,” he shares. “I didn’t say anything to it. I reported her to HR and she was warned.”

“My coworkers say I escalated too far, but I want to work, keep my head down, and go home. Is that too much to ask?” the man posed to the internet. 

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People in the comments section were sympathetic to the man, telling him that it’s his choice to share things with his co-workers or not, so long as it doesn’t impact his work or the business. 

One person simply wrote, “People from work have no right to anything personal unless adversely affecting work.” 

Another user shared a personal story about their grief and personal loss, and how work was a “distraction” from it. 

“I did the same after my daughter died, took a new job 10 months later and just didn’t mention it at all. I was so worn out with people wanting to discuss it constantly at my old job, when the whole reason I’d gone back to work was to have some hours of the day where I was distracted from it,” the person wrote.

“A few knew but because I didn’t bring it up they never did and I was able to just work. I’m there 4 years and still only mention her rarely and people know I don’t want to discuss her death, I’ll mention her when I speak about my kids as she’s still my daughter but I don’t want to discuss my grief or her death in a work environment. These people aren’t friends, they’re colleagues and I feel no emotional attachment to any of them so they have no rights to my emotions.” 

Ultimately, most people agreed that he did the right thing as it made his boundaries clear.