Woman Says She Is Upset She Wasn’t Invited to Her Sister’s 50th Birthday Party

A woman is feeling left out after she wasn’t included in celebrations to mark her sister’s milestone 50th birthday.

In a post on the U.K.-based forum Mumsnet, the woman wrote that her sibling “had a birthday meal out with her friends, my siblings and our parents,” but she wasn’t looped in on the plans.

“This came as a complete surprise,” the woman said in her post, adding, “No one mentioned it to me at all.”

Now, the woman said she is looking for “advice about what I do next,” because she feels her family’s actions were deliberate. “The photos aren’t attempting to hide the meal out. Of course I would see them,” she wrote.

The woman added that she plans to see her mother soon, and she is currently wondering: “Do I say something? What do I say to my siblings in our [group chat]? Anything? Nothing?”

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In the comments section of the post, other Mumsnet users sided with the upset woman, writing that they understood her hurt.

“This is a horrible way to have treated you,” wrote one commenter, as another said, “That is so sneaky and hurtful of them to do this.”

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Others, meanwhile, told the woman that they think she should cancel her plans with her mother for the time being, in order to figure out why she was excluded from the family gathering.

“I would [cancel] seeing her Monday and [tell] her that you’ll be processing being excluded by all of them for a bit,” was a suggestion from one user.

“I would cancel the meeting with your mother and not bother with any of them for the time being. They are all to blame. It’s nasty,” another said.