Woman Reveals Lengthy List of Online Dating Dealbreakers After Divorce

A woman is revealing the things men include in their online dating profiles that “instantly” put her off starting a conversation.

The woman explained in a post on Mumsnet that after her divorce five years ago, she had a few “perfectly pleasant” dates with men she met online but chose not to take things further. 

Having redownloaded the apps recently, she’s been “finding more and more reasons to swipe left instantly.” She acknowledged that her dealbreakers could be causing her to miss out on a great match, but argued men should “put together a decent profile.”

Listing her dislikes, she wrote, “ENM [ethical non-monogamy], fish pictures (becoming less common), posing by someone else’s expensive car, mentioning they are good with their hands, mouth, whatever.”

The woman also admitted she dislikes men who gush about their children coming first on their profiles and those who make comments about looking for someone “drama-free.”

“Topless pics out of context (Beach maybe okay, bedroom mirror selfie NO!),” she continued. “No punctuation, aggressive don’t match if you…. a,b,c, d comments.

“First pic of a large group of bros (he’s the ugly one, always), bios starting with ‘never know what to write here,’ and lying about age with the obligatory ‘actually 52 but can’t change it’ comment,” she added. 

The woman said repeatedly reading bios with flirtatious comments about slapping the bum when holding the door makes her want to vomit. 

Encouraging others to share their dealbreakers, she wrote, “Anyway, really just letting out frustrations! Tell me your profile icks so I can take them on as my own and give up the whole business 😂.”

Many responses to the post were amused by the woman’s lengthy list of red flags as some commenters began to share their own dealbreakers.

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“Too close up selfies with their phone covering 3/4 of their face usually taken in a public toilet wearing an obligatory hiviz vest,” one person wrote.

“I’m married now, but from my memories of my dating site times any profile which was all about what you should be and not about them…. ‘not interested in any liars, cheaters, self-obsessed women, women with kids, women who are overweight’ etc,” another said. “It’s fine to have preferences, but to use your opportunity to sell yourself to make some kind of anti-women commentary was always a massive ick for me.”

“It’s been a while since I did OLD [online dating], but I do recall the women with that awful ‘if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best’ quote and giving them an instant swerve,” another user chimed in.