Husband Angry Wife Planned Disney Birthday for Sister Without Their Kids

A woman turns to Reddit for advice following a disagreement with her husband about taking their children to Disneyland.

“My husband (34M) and I (32F) just got into an argument regarding whether or not I should take our kids (6F and 4M) to Disneyland for my sister’s (35F) birthday,” she writes in her post.

She explains that her sister is visiting in October, and she wants to surprise her with a trip to Disneyland because it has been years since her sister last went.

The poster recalls that her sister only went to Disneyland as a child a handful of times. “Growing up, she never really had friends to go with because she is quite the introvert, so going as a family would be the only time she ever went,” she explains.

She adds that while their classmates often visited the park for field trips, her sister would stay behind. “Since she didn’t have friends, she would opt out of the field trip and just stay home for the day,” she says, noting that her parents encouraged her sister to go, but she always refused.

Now, as adults, the poster notices her sister showing renewed interest in Disney. “Lately I noticed, her liking and reposting Disney posts on TikTok regarding the different foods, merchandise and rides,” she writes. “So I thought it would be a nice surprise not only to take her, but to make a whole grand experience of it.”

She reveals that she went all out in planning the trip. “I decided to purchase a vacation package for 4 days and 3 nights at a resort nearby, and got her a 2-day park hopper ticket,” she says.

Because she knows her sister is introverted and not particularly fond of children, she intended for the celebration to be just the two of them. “Since my sister is very much an introvert and doesn’t like kids very much, I told my husband it would just be me and her,” she explains.

Her husband didn’t mind staying behind himself, as he isn’t a big fan of amusement parks. But he did object to leaving the kids at home. “He argued that I should take the kids since it’s Disneyland,” she says.

The poster points out that the children already go to Disneyland often. “We live in Southern CA, and pretty close to Disneyland, and we have taken our kids to Disney plenty of times since we all have passes, so I didn’t think it would be a big deal,” she explains.

Still, her husband believes the timing makes this trip different. “My husband is saying that since it’s in October and they have a Halloween theme going on that the kids should be a part of it and have the experience of staying at a Disney hotel,” she writes.

But she insists her children aren’t missing out on anything major. “For the record, my kids have experienced staying at a Disney hotel because we have taken them to Disney World in Florida, but just not the Disney hotel in CA,” she explains.

Although her sister loves her niece and nephew, the poster feels the trip should be focused solely on her sibling. “Personally, I know my sister very well and I know she would enjoy it much more if it were just me and her. And this whole birthday celebration is for her, not me or my kids,” she writes.

Her husband, however, still disagrees. “My husband seems to think I’m an a—— for not wanting to take my kids to Disneyland,” she admits.

Commenters were quick to defend her, with one saying, “NTA, your husband just doesn’t want to take care of the kids solo.” But the mother pushed back on that suggestion.

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“I like to think it’s not about the kids, considering he has done so in the past whenever I visit my sister in San Fran or have a trip with friends, and vice versa,” she explains. “Him and his friends will rent out a cabin and have LAN parties a lot, so he definitely has no problem taking care of the kids solo.”

Instead, she believes her husband just associates Disneyland with their children. “In his mind, I think it’s, ‘Well, it’s Disneyland and the kids love Disneyland, so you should take them,’ ” she says.

The mother confesses she was feeling conflicted herself. “I guess I was just having a bit of mom guilt for not taking my kids to Disneyland, and my husband also perpetuated that feeling,” she shares.

But after reading supportive replies, she feels more confident about her decision. “Seeing all the replies, I feel better for standing my ground and only wanting to take my sister,” she says.

Even so, she is quick to defend her husband against criticism. “Now I feel a little bad that people in this comment section think he’s a lazy father hahaha he’s very hands on, I promise!” she adds.