Man Upsets Live-in Girlfriend by Allowing Pregnant Teen Daughter to Move in

A father turns to Reddit for advice following a tense situation at home after his pregnant daughter moved in, leaving his girlfriend feeling blindsided and upset.

The 40-year-old dad explains that his 18-year-old daughter was kicked out of her mother’s house after revealing her pregnancy and he didn’t hesitate to open his door to her.

“I told her of course, she knows this is disappointing but she’ll never stop being my baby and if this is what’s going to happen, I’m here to support her within reason,” he writes. He made it clear that he will help with babysitting if his daughter has class or work, but he draws a line at watching the baby so she can party.

The father shared that his daughter has always been a strong student, graduating with over a 4.0 GPA and maintaining a large circle of friends. “She has no idea what she wants to do with her life, and had already decided to defer her scholarship a year to take classes at the community college and work,” he explains.

Her relationship with her boyfriend, a nursing student, seemed solid, but the news of the pregnancy shifted everything. When the daughter told her dad she and her boyfriend had decided to keep the baby, she asked if she could stay with him.

The father noted that he is proud of the way his daughter and her boyfriend handled the decision. “I told her and the boyfriend to sleep on it and they did and came back with actual thoughtful responses, and even a budget and budget goal that I found impressive,” he writes. He quickly set aside a small room in the home for the nursery.

For two years, the dad has been dating his girlfriend, and until now, things have seemed harmonious. On top of that, she says she “gets along great” with his daughter, adding that his girlfriend had recently moved in and the arrangement had been going smoothly.

This girlfriend, however, was not prepared for this sudden change. “She got upset and said if she wanted to raise a baby she’d have one of her own,” the father writes. He recalls her saying she never signed up for this situation and that his daughter, now legally an adult, should handle the pregnancy on her own.

When he told his girlfriend that wasn’t an option, her reaction was intense and she gave him “an ultimatum.”

“She threatened to move out if I didn’t tell [my daughter] to get out, then got mad that I told her I understood,” he admits. For now, his girlfriend remains in the home but has been either avoiding them or being “snippy,” creating a tense atmosphere.

The father is torn between his loyalty to his daughter and his relationship with his girlfriend. “I don’t know what she expects me to do, but it’s making the entire house anxious,” he explains. He stresses that his daughter has always lived in his home, reminding readers that his girlfriend was not blindsided by her presence.

In an edit, he clarified this point further, noting that his girlfriend should be “shocked” that his daughter “moved in,” given it’s her “home.” “She’s always lived here,” he writes, emphasizing that only the pregnancy was unexpected.

Commenters on Reddit suggested that his girlfriend’s resistance might come from fear that she will be left with childcare responsibilities. However, the dad notes that he has already addressed this concern directly.

“I’ve made it clear that all she will owe to the baby is to help in emergencies – and by emergencies I mean this is not only extreme but urgent like I’d ask a very good neighbor if that makes sense,” he explains. He promises that if both his daughter and her boyfriend are unavailable, he will cancel his own plans before ever turning to his girlfriend.

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He insists that his girlfriend will not be asked to step in unless she volunteers. “The only exception is if she offers, and I have no expectations that she will offer. I think I’m being fair,” he adds.

Despite his reassurances, his girlfriend remains upset and the father is unsure how to move forward. He admits the situation has strained the once-peaceful household, leaving him caught in the middle of two people he deeply cares about.

While he remains firm in his commitment to support his daughter and her baby, he worries about what this means for his relationship. As he puts it simply, “She’ll always be my daughter and needs help.”