Woman ‘Uncomfortable’ with the Name Her Mother Wants Grandkids to Call Her

A first-time grandmother wants the baby to call her “Big Mama” instead of grandma — but her daughter is not interested.

In a post shared to Reddit, the woman writes that a few days after she announced her pregnancy, her own mother said “out of nowhere” that she wants the child to call her “Big Mama.”

“I told her nicely I was uncomfortable with it because I should be the only person who is even remotely considered mama or any type of mama,” she adds. “She went into a whole spree about how she is the grandparent and she gets to be called anything she wants and I need to learn to ‘respect my elders.’ ”

“I told her I was uncomfortable and that I was fine with any normal grandparent names,” she continues. “She was not having it and keeps bringing up the fact she WILL be called big mama. I told her to stop and that if she doesn’t pick a different name she will be just grandma.”

Now, it’s spiraled into an even larger argument, with the woman questioning whether she wants the child to meet her mother at all.

“After I was done talking to my mom about her never seeing her grandkid she then started calling me names and said I would never be a good mother,” she writes in the post. “I told her once I move out of Minnesota (moving in a month!) I was never going to contact her and she was never going to be in my life.”

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She ended the post by asking if she was “in the wrong,” looking for outside perspectives on the situation.

Other Reddit users weighed in, assuring the poster that she was not out of line for trying to set a boundary with her mother.

“You need to start distancing yourself from her now before the baby is born. Stop visiting, stop calling, stop answering her calls. Don’t answer the door if she comes over,” one user responded. “Talk to your husband so you are on the same page. Move as soon as you can and don’t give her any information about your new location.”