Hilaria Baldwin is opening up about the realities of being married to someone 26 years older than her. On the November 13 episode of the Uncut and Uncensored podcast, the 41-year-old wellness guru revealed that she and Alec, 67, have sought therapy to navigate the age gap in their marriage.
“There are certain things where I have to look at him and say, ‘He has 26 more years of experience,’” Hilaria explained. “And sometimes that’s a flex, and sometimes that means that we need to do a little therapy.”
The couple, who married in 2012, shares seven children together. Alec also has a 30-year-old daughter, Ireland, from his previous marriage to Kim Basinger, 71. Hilaria addressed the challenges stemming from Alec’s past. “He had the very notorious, complicated situation with his previous wife and with Ireland,” she said. “I think he wanted a chance to do it in a different way and make different choices.”
Despite the complexities of family life, Hilaria described their household as carefully considered, though not without its struggles. “Do we have our normal, marital arguments? One hundred percent,” she admitted. “But it’s the desire to both want to be there and to both want to make it work. When you have that, I think you can go through anything together.”
Hilaria also reflected on how marriage and public attention initially affected her sense of self. “I think in many ways, I did lose part of my identity when I married Alec,” she revealed, noting that her relationship brought “other people talking about [me] for the first time on a very massive level.” She recalled advice she saw on Instagram: “This woman said, ‘You need to be able to really articulate and know what your identity is, because otherwise you’re going to just get it from other people because everybody’s going to have an opinion.’ And this is not a famous person who’s saying this. We’re all the same, regardless if we’re famous, not famous, whatever. We’re all flesh and blood.”
Now, Hilaria says she has a clearer understanding of herself and how to maintain it in the public eye. “I haven’t been as clear as I should have been with myself about my identity,” she said. “People can say this or that. I cannot stop them. But I can know myself in a way that hopefully it won’t give me that nauseous pit in my stomach that I’ve experienced so many times.”
