Woman Angry Mother-in-Law Prioritizing ‘Giant Dog’ Over Granddaughter

A woman is full of rage after her mother-in-law refused to send her son’s “untrained” dog away for her granddaughter’s annual visit.

The woman explained on Mumsnet that her daughter goes to her mother-in-law’s for at least five days every summer, and typically, the “giant” canine that belongs to her brother-in-law is sent away from the house for the duration of the stay. She recalled that the pet previously “scratched” her daughter’s chest when she was around 4 years old.

However, this year, the woman has had to arrange for her daughter to stay with another relative, as they are refusing to send the dog away. She added that her mother-in-law would also go stay with the relative so they can still spend time together. 

“Am I overreacting by being annoyed about this?” the woman asked. “She has to go and stay with a relative that she’s never stayed with before and sees maybe twice a year, that the dog is being allowed to stay in the house and my 7yo daughter has to move out because of it?”

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The woman revealed that she and her husband “had a fight” when she complained about the situation, with him arguing their daughter could stay in the house alongside the dog.

“Maybe I’m being controlling but it’s really pushing buttons in me,” she said.

Responses to the post were divided on whether the woman’s expectations for the dog to be removed during her daughter’s visits were unreasonable.

“YABU [you are being unreasonable] in my opinion. Your DD [dear daughter] is still spending time with her relatives and has been separated from the dog,” one person wrote. “Your mil [mother-in-law] has honoured your wishes. Presumably, the dog lives there full time. You have two options: send her or don’t. I don’t think it’s fair to dictate what happens in someone else’s house.”

“YABU, the dog lives there full time and despite what you obviously think, dogs are family members,” another commented. “The obvious solution is that your MIL comes to stay with you, although your daughter staying with your MIL at another relative’s sounds perfectly reasonable to me as well, assuming that the person they are staying with is not a danger to her.”

Disagreeing, a third said, “YANBU [you are not being unreasonable], who is the other relative? Do you know them? Does DD? DH [dear husband] sounds like he doesn’t take dog attack risks very seriously. If the dog is dangerous, I’d be worried for MIL to be honest.”

Another added, “God forbid anyone asks a 40-year-old man staying at his mom’s place to take his dog elsewhere for a week.”