Woman Says Her Boyfriend Is Mad She Befriended His Ex-Girlfriend

A woman is at odds with her boyfriend after striking up a very unlikely friendship with his ex-girlfriend.

In a post on Reddit’s “Am I the A——?” forum, the woman explained that her boyfriend was with his ex-girlfriend on and off for about six months before their relationship ended on “bad terms.” Despite knowing the background, the woman revealed she is refusing to block his ex since they connected on social media.

The Redditor said she’s been with her boyfriend for five months, but it’s just recently that his ex viewed her TikTok.

“I followed her and she added me on Snap,” she said of her boyfriend’s ex. “We’ve just been talking, nothing about him, we just get along.”

The woman revealed her boyfriend was furious when he discovered their budding online friendship.

“He found out about this and got really mad and kept telling me to block her, but I refused and now he’s mad at me,” she said, before asking, “[Am I the a——]?”

The post was flooded with comments from people saying that the woman’s boyfriend can’t control who she talks to, while adding that it seems inappropriate to speak to his ex-girlfriend.

“Personally, I think it’s a little weird to be friends with your significant other’s ex, but that’s me,” one person wrote. “If I asked my partner to block my ex and they didn’t, I’m not sure they would remain a partner. Not a cheating issue, a relationship boundary issue. NAH [not the a——] but think about boundaries and if it was the other way around.”

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“You might be the AH [a——]. Something may have happened between his ex and him that is hurtful and that he is too embarrassed to talk about,” another commented. “Are you really that invested in being friends with his ex? It’s not a matter of whether you are an AH. It’s a matter of whether this is a battle worth fighting.”

“You’re allowed to choose who you talk to. That said, I can see why he feels uncomfortable, since she’s his ex and their history is messy,” a third said.

“It comes down to trust: if you’re only chatting as friends and not talking about him, then it’s not shady on your part,” the same person continued. “He doesn’t get to control your friendships, but it’s worth having a calm talk about boundaries so both of you feel respected.”

“A person meets a stranger online,” someone else wrote. “That stranger has deeply hurt their partner. The person with the hurt partner actively chooses to pursue a friendship with the stranger who hurt their partner. You had no prior friendship with this woman. It’s weird to believe that your boyfriend would be okay with this. YTA [you are the a——].”