Bride Wants to Disinvite Friend from Wedding After Finding Out She’s Not Invited to Hers

A bride-to-be wants to disinvite her close friend from her wedding after discovering that she’s not invited to hers.

In a post on Reddit’s “Wedding” forum, the “upset” bride shared that she feels hurt after recently learning that her “longtime good friend,” who is also engaged, has excluded her from her wedding guest list despite accepting an invitation to hers.

The two women are set to tie the knot just one month apart from each other next year. Because both upcoming weddings are “quite large,” with more than 100 friends and family members already invited, the Redditor assumed she would make the cut to her friend’s big day.

“Just to be clear, I would not be offended if they were having a small <50 person wedding and I wasn’t invited as we aren’t best friends but we are still good friends (I thought) and see each other often throughout the year,” she said.

The Redditor explained that her frustration stems not from the fact that she’ll be missing her friend’s “big event,” but because their bond now feels “one-sided.”

“I’m not handing out wedding invites to get invites back, but I am upset that I thought we were closer friends than she thinks we are and I really only want close friends at my wedding,” the bride wrote. “Which is fine, I can now adjust my expectations I guess.”

She concluded her post by asking the forum: “Should I uninvite her politely?”

In the comments section, Reddit users advised the poster to talk to her friend before jumping to conclusions about their friendship. They argued that just because the women have similar-sized weddings doesn’t mean that they’re able to invite the same number of friends. The Redditor’s friend and her fiancé might have very large families, for example.

“No, you invited her. Stick to it,” one person commented. “Regardless of the number, she may not be able to invite as many friends. Maybe huge families on both sides, parent pressure for the guests list.”

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Another Redditor agreed, writing, “Some people have bigger families that take up space, some people don’t and have friends making up a large portion. Weddings are not tit for tat, everyone is different.”

The poster acknowledged in a comment that her friend might have a “larger family to friend ratio” at her wedding, but noted that “it just wasn’t something which really occurred to me since the rest of our group of friends are all invited.”