Woman Considers Divorce After Husband Doesn’t Stick Up for Her in Fight with In-Laws

A woman is “considering divorce” and “cutting off” her husband’s family after a situation with her soon-to-be sister-in-law.

On Reddit, the woman explained that the drama began over Labor Day weekend when they visited her husband’s family cabin. The first source of tension came after her brother-in-law’s fiancée asked if they wanted to go on the boat, which the poster declined due to “devastating motion sickness.”

“She kept prodding, asking repeatedly, and I finally relented and told them they could go without me, and her response was they were going either way,” she writes. “During this interaction, I was obviously getting frustrated, but my husband didn’t speak up to have my back or help shut it down, which happens a lot.”

Shortly after the dispute, the poster learned life-changing information, which drastically changed her overall mood on the trip.

“While at the cabin I had a friend who found my biological family (I’m adopted), which was pretty emotional,” the poster shares.

She told her in-laws about the situation and explained why she might be “a bit off” the rest of the trip as she processed the new information. She noted that she turned down offers to do a couple more activities since she was so “emotionally exhausted.” However, her soon-to-be sister-in-law didn’t take no for an answer.

“She’d ask, then send her dad to ask, then her fiancé. I said no, no, no — and explained why. The fiancé does this all the time to me, and usually I can tolerate either going along with it or continuously explaining why I can’t, but this weekend I was too overwhelmed to have the patience for her behavior,” she explains.

A few days later, her soon-to-be sister-in-law reached out to ask “what was going on.” So, the poster crafted a “clear text” asking her to “respect [her] choices.”

“Rather than being understanding and respecting my boundaries, she instead blew up my phone with long texts and calls, insisting on a list of every time I felt like she had pressured me. My husband and I thought that wouldn’t be helpful, so we didn’t respond immediately, hoping that she’d cool off,” the woman shares. 

The woman vented to her other sister-in-law about the situation, only for her to turn around and tell the fiancée about their conversation, which “escalated everything.”

“I then got kicked out of the wedding party. Nobody else was punished, just me,” she writes. “Keep in mind this is the first time we have disagreed and I thought out relationship [was] strong enough for me to politely ask for my boundaries to be respected.”

When the woman asked her husband to stand up for her, noting that she was being “ostracized” for “saying no to a boat ride,” he didn’t.

“I told him, if your wife is getting shut out, you need to stand with her. Instead, he’s been giving me the silent treatment, sleeping in the spare room, and acting like he’s the victim,” she writes. “I worry that if he can’t support or stand up for me now, he won’t do it in the future either. I also worry that having a family who doesn’t respect boundaries will affect my mental health and my future children.”

For context, she noted that she and her husband have had “multiple conversations” where she asked him to back her up when it comes to his brother’s “pushy” fiancée.

“Now I’m actually considering divorce and disowning his family. Both brothers and my husband have agreed the fiancée was immature, but have not stood up for me,” she ends, turning to the comments section of the post to ask for help.

“Girl, you need to count your losses and run. I’d rather be alone than with a man who only cares about himself,” one person wrote. “He will never have your back, is this how you wanna live? Ask yourself that question and think long and hard.”